Relationship as a Laboratory

 

 

“When two people get together, they bring all their incompletions from previous relationships. They also bring all that is incomplete within themselves.

The new relationship is a laboratory. Knowing this will make no difference unless you work with what you brought that does not work. This is what it takes to grow as a couple.”

 

Elder Alex Ferranti

Human Extinction is Not Possible

HUMAN EXTINCTION IS NOT POSSIBLE

A Thought Experiment

Harvey W Austin, MD

Consider that human extinction is impossible ― as long as any biologic life exists on earth.

Humans are so adaptable that, as long as biologic life remains ―  in any form whatsoever―  humans will survive as a species. Adaptability is perhaps our most prominent trait. Humans can live from the coldest to the hottest climes, from the driest to the wettest. We can live underground, in the trees, in caves, in the mountains and on the plains. We can eat anything from algae to elephants.

It will not take many of us to survive, merely a few hundred breeding pairs. That’s all it took last time, scientists tell us. If Life itself survives so then will human beings. Perhaps a more appropriate name for us than Homo sapiens sapiens might be Homo adaptans.

Let’s play a simple numbers game.

 Question:  How many people would have to survive a global holocaust to match the size of the group ― the source of us all ― that survived the last ice age.*

While no one knows the actual size, science’s best guess is “a few hundred.”  To make the math easy, let’s say it might take 350 breeding pairs. Perhaps fewer if all lived in the neighborhood. (Way more than enough: technically it requires but one.) If scattered, a total earth population of 350 couples could repopulate the earth from a few hundred  locations around the globe.

Our 2016 world population is 7,400,000,000 (7.4 billion).

If we lost 90% in a holocaust, 740 million would remain, roughly the population of the world in 1750, 250 years ago.

If we were to lose 99%, we would still have 74,000,000.

If 99.9% = 7,400,000

99.99% = 740,000

99.999% = 74, 000

99.9999% = 7400

99.99999% = 740 human beings survive ― 370 couples.

CONCLUSIONIf only one in ten million of us survived, humans would still have 370 breeding pairs ― 370 “Eves” ― more than enough mothers for our species to survive, evolve and thrive.

Next time, assuming the Phoenix of humanity will again rise from the flames, perhaps we shall evolve into our Elderhood without lingering so long  in our dangerous adolescent stage.

 

* In human geneticsMitochondrial Eve is the matrilineal most recent common ancestor (MRCA) of all currently living humans. This is the most recent woman from whom all living humans today descend, in an unbroken line, on their mother’s side … back until all lines converge on one woman, who is estimated to have lived approximately 100,000–200,000 years ago.             Wikipedia.

Ten Tipping Points to Elderhood


Evolve into Elderhood:
How to Know You Are on the Path

(Ten Tipping Points)

Harvey W. Austin, MD

 

 ‘Tis a far far better thing to do

Than remain adult your most life through

Become an Elder along with me

The Best of life is yet to be.

 

The importance of Elderhood as an influential period of life is widely overlooked. Let’s swing wide and look at Elderhood a little differently:

  1. The Broad View

 

Our masculine-focused worldwide worldview has maxed out. The pendulum has swung as far as possible and our worldview has hit its masculine maximum. Now the swing is back toward the feminine. Another way of speaking is that an evolutionary shift is occurring from the masculine You OR Me worldview to our inherent feminine You AND Me worldview.

 

  1. We Are All Female: At the Beginning and at the End

 

There also seems to be a pendular quality in the life-long development (ontogeny) of a human being. Carole Kammen, co-founder of The Pathways Institute Mystery School, suggested thirty years ago that the individual’s natural biologic state is female. The early fetus is female and the male genitalia do not develop until later in fetal life. For the male, a rugged maleness continues throughout the childhood and adulthood stages.

 

In the Elder stage, however, there is a subtle but definite reversion to the default female state, both physically and psychically. The rugged form of the male adult tends to feminize, becoming softer with a protruding belly and saggy breasts. Psychically, as the Elder male slows down, he becomes more compassionate, wiser, and more interested in taking care of others. Typically, he is easier to be around.

 

This view says that we begin as females. For half of us the pendulum swings to male.  As we approach the last third of our lives, the pendulum swings back. If we allow it.

 

Adulthood Everlasting

The critical transition from adult to Elder occurred naturally in indigenous tribes. In our culture this transition has been aborted. Our present cult of “Adulthood Triumphant to the End!” has stunted the growth of our natural and unique Third Stage of life. To become an Elder now, in the milieu of a cross-cultural loss of both tribe and family, occurs only as a deliberate creative process for both men and women.

As a result of the patriarchy and of rampant ageism, the natural wisdom and compassion of Elders has been lost to our modern culture. We have retained neither an appreciation for the wisdom of Elders, nor a gratefulness for their compassion. This loss has contributed to the threatening global issues we now face.

Elderhood is critical to our species. It defines us as a species and it shapes our pathway into the future. The loss of family as our Elder-training-ground has left a gap in our individual development and in the evolution of our species. We may have devolved.

There is a dearth of training settings for those who choose to become an Elder. We do not have a method for identifying those of us who have, against odds, managed to evolve into Elderhood. Nor have we had a way of assessing our own paths.

 

Ten Tipping Points

Are you just getting older? Or are you evolving into Elderhood?  You can use these ten Tipping Points into Elderhood to determine where you are upon the path.

  1. A shift from Doing and Having to Being.
  2. A shift from Getting to Giving.
  3. A shift to from Fragmentation to Integrity.
  4. A shift from I to We.
  5. A shift from Judgment to Compassion.
  6. A shift from Self-centeredness to Other-centeredness.
  7. A shift from Contracting to Expanding.
  8. A shift from Debate to Inquiry.
  9. A shift from Needing acknowledgement to Giving acknowledgement.
  10. A shift from Changing to Allowing.

 

Consider also the following transformations that occur with Elderhood.

 

  1. An enlargement of time-frame focus from the immediacy of minutes, hours or days to a matter of years, decades or epochs.
  2. A shift from the day-to-day focus to legacy-thinking.
  3. A shift from working on ourselves as individuals to focusing on a larger self.
  4. A shift from the content to the context: a shift from subset to supraset.
  5. A shift from atheism and/or religiosity to spirituality.
  6. A shift from speaking to listening.
  7. A shift from fixing and helping to serving.
  8. A shift in default state from the automatic NO to a willingness to say YES.
  9. A shift from the fear of death to acceptance.
  10. A shift from safety to daring.
  11. A shift from the particular to the general.
  12. A shift from disapproval to approval.
  13. A shift into true humor and irony.
  14. A shift from pessimism to optimism.
  15. A shift from seriousness to a lightness of being.

 

 

Elderhood is an idea whose time has returned. Come be an Elder along with me ― the best is yet to be. Remember that Elder is not an age of life. It is a stage of life.

Live it.

Love it.

 

 

Harvey W. Austin, MD

Author,

Elders Rock!

 Don’t Just Get Older:

 Become an Elder

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www.EldersRock.com

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“Our Elders Rock! Group has found this essay to be the core curriculum for our meetings.  It covers all the bases and we need no other agenda for our ever-expanding and enthusiastic discussions”

 

Dr. Arleen Bump, Senior Pastor

Center for Spiritual Living, Fort Lauderdale

Former President

International Centers for Spiritual Living

 

First BlogSpot Interview Was Terrific!

I was just interviewed by a delightful licensed psychotherapist, James Miller, on BlogTalk Radio.

The show’s title is, Celebrating Your Life as You Age:  Become an Elder.  It is my first interview since Amazon listed Elders Rock! in hard copy.  The both of us had great fun and I sound like an exuberant youth on a mission ― full of fire.

Please click on my Speaker Page http://speaker.eldersrock.com.   It’s 25 minutes long and quite dynamic. (You can skip the first two minutes of commercial.

 

Elders Rock! Now in Hard Copy

“ELDERS ROCK! Don’t Just Get Older: Become An Elder”

“To Be An Elder Means to Live Life in Full-Bloom”

 “The purpose of this powerful book is to restore humanity’s natural Third Stage of Life ― Elder.”

 

Elders Rock! Group

Our Elders Rock! Group in Fort Lauderdale has two great notions: Our world needs the Wisdom of Elders. And we need Elders to teach Elders to teach Elders to teach … and so on. Three months ago two of us initiated such a Group at the Center for Spiritual Living in Fort Lauderdale.

There are no models, so we are making it up as we go along. We are excited to be pioneers in the restoration of Elder as our natural Third Stage of Life.

Here’s our thinking:

Our world has been run by mere adults without Elder Supervision for too long. Our world with its immature You OR Me worldview leaves many of us out. That worldview has led to our present world of sexism, of racism and ageism. As Einstein told us, “The world we have now is a function of the thinking we have done to date.” And that thinking, at its most basic, rests on an immature worldview, a You OR Me paradigm, with its underlying assumptions of separation and perceived shortages.

A world that includes the Wise Elder would have a different worldview ―a You AND Me worldview, a paradigm of inclusion, compassion and sufficiency. A world that works for everyone with no one and nothing left out.

Background:

I woke up one morning with a message. From that space between asleep and awake, the hypnagogic space, I awoke with this, “Bring back Elder. Write a book.”

“Sure.  What’s an Elder?”

The first book I could find on Amazon with ‘Elder’ in the title was In the Arms of Elders by one William H. Thomas, M.D. I loved it. I was inspired. Encouraged, I wrote my book and sent an early draft to Bill. He liked my ideas but said “. . . it just isn’t a book yet.”   It wasn’t. Now it is. Due for release, it is titled, Elders Rock! Don’t Just Get Older: Become an Elder.

But it takes more than one person, more than one book, to restore Elder as our natural Third Stage of life. Dr. Arleen Bump, Senior Pastor of the Center for Spiritual Living read it. “Dr. Thomas is right. And you also are right. Let’s form an Elder Group at the Center.”

……………………………….

Our growing Elder group of eighteen has met four times and each of us has declared, “I am an Elder!”   Our ages range from 52 to 85. We have varied backgrounds but our commonality is what matters. Each of us has long known we were committed to making a difference. The group works with the wisdom attributes of Elder – Compassion, Listening and Acceptance. We are inspired by the Margaret Mead quote, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

We have two events scheduled – a Reception and Book Signing for Elders Rock! On December 4.

The second event is our strong support of Dr. Bill’s Age of Disruption evening here in Fort Lauderdale on November 6. Go Bill!                                       507 words.

Introduction to “Pop’s Advice”

 

Introduction to Pop’s Advice

 

It is a small truth that “Every journey begins with a single step.”

A larger truth is, “Every journey begins with the destination clear.”

Each of us has a destination in our life we have created, usually by default. If you live inside an unconscious default destination, it better be a good one. The accompanying blog entry, Pop’s Advice, is the story of one of these good ones, and for me it was a great one.

I suggest there is a better way than counting on a smart father’s advice. Instead consciously choose a future, throw it ‘out there’, tell the world about it, and allow it then to pull you into itself. One single step at a time.

It is never too late to create consciously. Best get at it.