Elders Rock! Group

Our Elders Rock! Group in Fort Lauderdale has two great notions: Our world needs the Wisdom of Elders. And we need Elders to teach Elders to teach Elders to teach … and so on. Three months ago two of us initiated such a Group at the Center for Spiritual Living in Fort Lauderdale.

There are no models, so we are making it up as we go along. We are excited to be pioneers in the restoration of Elder as our natural Third Stage of Life.

Here’s our thinking:

Our world has been run by mere adults without Elder Supervision for too long. Our world with its immature You OR Me worldview leaves many of us out. That worldview has led to our present world of sexism, of racism and ageism. As Einstein told us, “The world we have now is a function of the thinking we have done to date.” And that thinking, at its most basic, rests on an immature worldview, a You OR Me paradigm, with its underlying assumptions of separation and perceived shortages.

A world that includes the Wise Elder would have a different worldview ―a You AND Me worldview, a paradigm of inclusion, compassion and sufficiency. A world that works for everyone with no one and nothing left out.


I woke up one morning with a message. From that space between asleep and awake, the hypnagogic space, I awoke with this, “Bring back Elder. Write a book.”

“Sure.  What’s an Elder?”

The first book I could find on Amazon with ‘Elder’ in the title was In the Arms of Elders by one William H. Thomas, M.D. I loved it. I was inspired. Encouraged, I wrote my book and sent an early draft to Bill. He liked my ideas but said “. . . it just isn’t a book yet.”   It wasn’t. Now it is. Due for release, it is titled, Elders Rock! Don’t Just Get Older: Become an Elder.

But it takes more than one person, more than one book, to restore Elder as our natural Third Stage of life. Dr. Arleen Bump, Senior Pastor of the Center for Spiritual Living read it. “Dr. Thomas is right. And you also are right. Let’s form an Elder Group at the Center.”


Our growing Elder group of eighteen has met four times and each of us has declared, “I am an Elder!”   Our ages range from 52 to 85. We have varied backgrounds but our commonality is what matters. Each of us has long known we were committed to making a difference. The group works with the wisdom attributes of Elder – Compassion, Listening and Acceptance. We are inspired by the Margaret Mead quote, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

We have two events scheduled – a Reception and Book Signing for Elders Rock! On December 4.

The second event is our strong support of Dr. Bill’s Age of Disruption evening here in Fort Lauderdale on November 6. Go Bill!                                       507 words.


Introduction to “Pop’s Advice”


Introduction to Pop’s Advice


It is a small truth that “Every journey begins with a single step.”

A larger truth is, “Every journey begins with the destination clear.”

Each of us has a destination in our life we have created, usually by default. If you live inside an unconscious default destination, it better be a good one. The accompanying blog entry, Pop’s Advice, is the story of one of these good ones, and for me it was a great one.

I suggest there is a better way than counting on a smart father’s advice. Instead consciously choose a future, throw it ‘out there’, tell the world about it, and allow it then to pull you into itself. One single step at a time.

It is never too late to create consciously. Best get at it.

Pop’s Advice

Patients sometimes ask how I became a cosmetic surgeon.

Early on I had a stock answer that made the decision sound logical. I told them that I had become a cosmetic surgeon because of careful choices at various forks in the road. The first fork, I used to say, was in medical school, when I had to choose between advanced study in medicine or in surgery. I chose surgery because by temperament I’m a results-oriented, “get it done and do it well” kind of guy. This worked well for me because surgery, in contrast to internal medicine, had a clear path with a definite beginning, middle and end.  The next fork was to choose plastic surgery because its precise nature required excellent hand-eye coordination. And I had that aplenty.

All that was true enough, but the story really started long before medical school. It had its roots in an after-dinner conversation with my father shortly after my twentieth birthday.  I was in my second undergraduate year at the University of Massachusetts and had come home for the Christmas holidays.

After dinner we sat, blue stuffed chairs facing each other in our tiny living room.  “Pop, I have a problem.”

“What’s that?” he replied, alarmed.

“It’s serious.  I have to declare a major and I have no idea what I want to be.”

“Oh, is that all? That’s easy.”

“No, Pop, it’s not easy. You don’t understand. I have to declare a major and I have no idea, none at all, what I want to be.”

“I understood you. I said it was easy”.

I resented his cavalier attitude toward what I saw as a monumental decision, one that would set the course for the rest of my life. Almost everyone in my class was facing the same dilemma, and we were in knots. Pop hadn’t finished high school so what could he know? Probably nothing, I thought.  However, with two years of college experience I considered myself tolerant. So I humored him as only a twenty-year-old can humor a father grown stupid.  “Easy, huh? So tell me.”

“Okay”, he said, “it’s simple. Look at what you like to do when you don’t have anything else you have to do. What are those things that you’re good at? That you fall back on and turn to when you’re just hanging around?”

I was a intrigued. “Well, I like to read. That’s the main thing.”

He smiled. I had a reputation for always having my nose in a book.

“I like to draw stuff. You know, sketch. And I go down to the basement and tie fishing flies.” I hesitated. “And I think about women.” I blurted. I was both embarrassed to admit it and more embarrassed that I had only thought about women.

Pop took my confession in stride. “O.K. You read. You sketch. You tie fishing flies. And you think about women. That’s what you do when there’s nothing else you have to do?”

“Yeah,” I answered, feeling defensive.

“Great!” Pop said.   “So that’s the stuff that’s easy for you and that you’re good at.  That’s the stuff you’d almost pay someone to let you do, yes?  So all you have to do is find a way to make a living out of one or more of those things and you’ll have it made.”  He smiled.  “And, with a little effort, you’ll be way ahead of the pack.”

I was deeply impressed.  What he said  made sense. For about 30 seconds I shared his enthusiasm.  Then I realized that no one was going to pay me to sit around and read,  that I was too colorblind to become  an artist and there was no money in tying fishing flies.  And what did he think I was going to with that woman thing, become a pimp?

“You’re sure that’s how I should figure out what I should become?”

“Why not?” he replied and he arose, slow and deliberate, and strolled into the kitchen.  He turned once, just a little, to smile over his shoulder.

Pop and I never mentioned that conversation again.  Over the years I enjoyed telling it as a funny story about my father.   One day – thirty years later – in the midst of telling it, I realized something: I was a cosmetic surgeon!

Suddenly I saw it.   I read medical journals constantly.  I sketched my patients’ faces to give them an idea how they might look. I used fine thread to close their incisions with tiny ties and stitches.  And, because more than ninety percent of my patients were women, I thought about them all the time.

I was stunned.  My mind worked hard to come up with another career that could have combined all four ― nothing. I abruptly knew that we had created my future in that conversation. My father had always wanted a life for me that was special and that night he had helped me bring it about. Not by offering advice about what he thought I should do, but by asking me to go within, look, and speak my personal truth. At the time, neither of us was aware of the power of that conversation. Yet it set the course of my life.

That conversation … and its resultant journey … was a vivid demonstration that it is the future that pulls rather than the past that pushes.  By setting a bold vision for the future and being willing for it to unfold, I created a life that has been true, free and full of endless enthusiasm.  While the past may be indeed interesting and informative, it is neither imaginative nor creative. We create a great life by imagining a future and casting that vision into the future.  Then we allow that vision to pull us into itself.

A magnificent vision for the future can create a magnificent life.

Thank you, Pop, long since passed.  I love you.

Harvey Austin 2014

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The Death of Elder

The Death of Elder

The role of Elder may be more important than either our famous opposable thumb or our sparkling neocortex in defining humanity as a species. Our blindness to that possibility may have destroyed our future.

Einstein said that the world we have now is a perfect correlate with the thinking humanity has done so far. The present state of the world, with its You OR Me paradigm, has been sourced by a pair of false assumptions ― that there are shortages and that we are not connected. These are the false assumptions of a worldwide culture run by Adult, a culture dominated by a cult of adulthood, as geriatrician and author William H. Thomas proposes.

Adult-think is based upon doing and asks, “Can we?” Elder-think, grounded in being, asks, “Should we?” Elder-think is wise, has a long view and is inclusive, based upon love and compassion for all. Elder has a view of a world that works for everyone with no one and nothing left out. It lives within a You AND Me paradigm.

The third stage of life, Elder, is the stage for which our first two stages, Youth and Adult, were intended to prepare us. Adult-think has become so prevalent, so cancerous, that we no longer have an Elder stage. Our precious and species-unique Elder stage has been lost, co-opted by Adult.

Without the instant restoration of our natural Elder stage, with its inherent wisdom, we may have no stages at all: we will no longer exist as a species. The Adult’s destruction of our very nest will be looked back upon by some rare and wise cave-dweller with terrible sadness.

Consider a tree in spring. The new leaves are the green of Youth. The trunk and branches are the Adult. The stabilizing and nourishing roots are the Elder. Humanity is a tree without roots. It will topple in the next high wind.

That storm is rapidly upon us, boiling on the near horizon, visible to all who will look. The loss of Elder as our cherished stage of wisdom has placed our species in great peril. The price for our immaturity will be high indeed. We will be gone.

We must have Elder restored as our natural third stage of life – Wise, Compassionate and Cherished.

Reproduce at Will with Attribution.


I am an Elder and I Love it!

I am an Elder and I love it.

You and I live on this beautiful blue-green planet hovering in space. We are its crew.

Yet, we humans, the most evolved species, do not get along with each other. Strange, because our organs get along with each other: the spleen never declares war on the pancreas. All 100 trillion of our cells cooperate and communicate with each other. Yet we humans, we walking-around cells of this living organism called Gaia, live inside a world view of competition and disconnection. We have a world in trouble.

I have two great intentions:

The first is that our global worldview shift from its present competitive You OR Me worldview to a cooperative You AND Me paradigm.

My second intention is that Elder is restored as our Natural Third Stage of Life – Wise, Compassionate and Cherished.

I have written a book. It is titled Elders Rock! It is subtitled: Don’t just get older: Become an Elder.

The book has two purposes… The first is to restore the respect our Elders were given for 99.7 percent of humanity’s life ― 200,000 years.

For the past two hundred years, a blink of the evolutionary eye, Elders as a group have been disparaged and sidelined. For eons, Elder was trained by five generations.― grandparents, parents, friends, their children and their grandchildren. With the loss of family, adults arrives at the stage of possible Elderhood ― untrained and unready.

Biologists tell us humans are unique for two reasons– our opposable thumb and our brain that can think about thinking. There’s a third reason:   Women are Unique.

Question: In every single species, what is that bizarre thing the female does when she can no longer produce young?   She dies. All except for the human species. Human females live another half a lifetime.

This is more extraordinary than those other two things that make human beings unique ―our opposable thumb and our brilliant neocortex. We are the only species that has a third stage of life – Elder. The million and a half other species only have a two stage life ― Youth and Adult. Not only does our Elder stage give us two generations to care for our young, but it gives us women who, no longer procreators, can become cocreators of humanity’s great future. And they have, on an average, an extra thirty five years to do so. Woman is amazing…. Especially the post-menopausal woman. It is time she comes out of the closet!   It is she who can save the planet.

With our loss of elder, we are heading toward having merely a two stage life ― Youth and Adult. This is an evolutionary backstep. How much longer can we have a world run by mere adults without supervision from wise Elders?

My book presents a blueprint for women – and men – to train themselves to become Elders, to become wise and compassionate and to become of great service to their family, to their community and to the world.

Elders Rock!   Don’t just get old: Become an Elder. Elder is not an Age of Life. It is a Stage of Life. You are never too old … or too young … to declare yourself to be an Elder!

HarveyWAustin@yahoo.com Reproduce at Will with Attribution.

Elders Rock! just made # 1 International Best Seller

Elders Rock! just made # 1 International Best Seller

I am delighted into incoherence.

I shall just babble!   Please bear with me.   This is NOT tight writing.

After one vision, seventeen months and twenty drafts later, my book, ELDERS ROCK! Don’t Just Get Older: Become an Elder launched. And it’s now an International Best Seller!   Hooah

If it didn’t sound too braggy, I would call it a GREAT book.   If enough people read it, the book could shift the way we hold aging.   Elder… with a capital E… is a great stage of life… the Best!


I hope you are one of those that purchased it. The book is going to be hard-copy listed at $14.95… as low as possible so that a lot of copies are out there. So if you’re a Kindle reader, it’s a good deal indeed.       www.book.eldersrock.com

I am sure not going to make any money on the book, which is perfectly fine. Books don’t make money, but for a few, a tiny few… around three tenths of one percent.

Experienced authors say there are only two reasons to write books. First is because it’s a hobby. That is not my reason. My hobby is sculpting weird and wonderful pieces of river-bottom wood. Now that’s a hobby.   Writing is a lot of work.

And writing is the easy part, other authors tell me.   Getting it published is hard work.   But so far, the publishing arm of Amazon, Createspace, has given me great service and the folks on my project team have been uniformly kind and knowledgeable.

The hardest of all, they say, is marketing the book.   I am looking forward to that. I once founded … and marketed … one of the largest cosmetic surgical practices in the country… back when it was so brand new, people didn’t even know what plastic surgery was… “Hey, Doc, what kinda plastic do you use?”


The second reason is because you have a message. And that is it… in spades… for me.

I live inside a powerful commitment to restore Elder as our natural third stage of life ― wise, compassionate and cherished. That’s my message in a nutshell. It is become the context of my entire life.   And I love it that I, nine months into my 80th year, have such a great commitment.   Within it, I find myself enthusiastic, joyous … and creative.

I am an Elder.   I am an Elder!   Not just as an age, but because I have declared myself one. And I have more compassion, more understanding of life, more appreciation for life’s patterns.

But I ramble with excitement… so I shall stop.   Hooah!